Fear is Not My Boss- How to Overcome Fear in Business
It’s funny how once you start down a path, or begin to move farther down a path others see what’s happening and want to know “How are you doing it?!” “Aren’t you afraid?” “How do you overcome fear?”
This questioning happened when we paid off $100,000 in debt. And now it’s happening as I completely change the trajectory of my career and start my own business.
While I would still consider myself in the beginning stages of building a business, I do recognize that I have come a LONG way from where I was this time last year. When all I had was an idea, a vision and…fear.
Fear of letting my family down.
Fear of about what others would think when I quit my cushy, salaried job.
Fear of creating something that people didn’t like.
Fear of failure.
The six months prior to actually starting working on Greatest Worth I was reading “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert. This book completely changed the way I see fear in my life. Here’s a letter that Gilbert wrote to fear that was life changing for me.
“I RECOGNIZE AND RESPECT THAT YOU ARE A PART OF THIS FAMILY, SO I WILL NEVER EXCLUDE YOU FROM OUR ACTIVITIES, BUT STILL – YOUR SUGGESTIONS WILL NEVER BE FOLLOWED. YOU’RE ALLOWED TO HAVE A SEAT AND YOU’RE ALLOWED TO HAVE A VOICE, BUT YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE A VOTE. YOU’RE NOT ALLOWED TO TOUCH THE ROAD MAPS. YOU’RE NOT ALLOWED TO SUGGEST DETOURS. YOU’RE NOT ALLOWED TO FIDDLE WITH THE TEMPERATURE. DUDE, YOU’RE NOT EVEN ALLOWED TO TOUCH THE RADIO. BUT, ABOVE ALL ELSE, MY DEAR AND OLD FAMILIAR FRIEND, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY FORBIDDEN TO DRIVE.”
This way of looking at fear, of seeing that fear is natural and expected and a part of everyone’s life, was very new to me. Without fear, we’d never have that exhilarating feeling of accomplishment. Fear actually makes our whole journey that much more exciting and beautiful.
FEAR IS NOT TO BE FEARED.
But also, fear cannot drive. WE have to drive. We know the truth about ourselves and what we’re capable of. Deep down anyway. And if you don’t know that truth yet, you will. If you’re open to knowing it, it will come – and completely take your breath away.
Fear has been VERY real for me this past year. In this day of beautiful instagram feeds and people chasing their dreams publicly, it’s easy to think that everything is sunshine and roses…for OTHER people.
Well, I wanted to be open and honest about what fear has looked like for me so far in my entrepreneurial journey. And how I’m currently working to overcome fear. Everyday!
FEAR BEGAN WITH THAT LITTLE VOICE THAT SAID, “YOU’RE NOT TALENTED ENOUGH TO START THIS BUSINESS.” AND, FEAR SHOWED UP IN MY EMBARRASSMENT TO TELL OTHERS I WAS STARTING A BUSINESS.
But, after a few months I stopped letting fear drive and decided to start telling everyone. Even before my website was live. And you know what? Nobody laughed. Not to my face anyway.
FEAR SHOWED UP IN HOW I SPOKE OF MY BUSINESS: “I’M JUST A BEGINNER.” “I DON’T ACTUALLY MAKE ANY MONEY YET, SO I GUESS IT’S NOT A BUSINESS.”
Greatest Worth IS a business. It’s a business I created. It’s my business and I no longer allow myself to minimize it. That minimizing doesn’t serve me, it doesn’t serve my business and most definitely doesn’t serve the people I am hoping to serve!
FEAR LOOKED LIKE GOING TO MY FIRST BLOGGING CONFERENCE AND WANTING TO EAT LUNCH ALONE BECAUSE I WAS AFRAID TO TALK TO OTHERS ABOUT MY TWO MONTH OLD BLOG.
I pushed my fear to the backseat again and introduced myself to people over and over again. For every meal. And once again, nobody laughed. Actually, people were gracious and complementary and kind.
FEAR SHOWED UP IN A BIG WAY A COUPLE WEEKS AGO AS I WAS ABOUT TO SET OUT ON MY FIRST BUSINESS GROUP COACHING RETREAT. I HEARD MYSELF SAY “YOU DON’T BELONG WITH THESE OTHER BLOGGERS. YOU’RE GOING TO MAKE A FOOL OF YOURSELF.”
I told this to a good friend of mine who has a lot of experience creating businesses. He said, “So, you’re afraid. You’re still going to go, aren’t you?”
It was that statement that helped me shift my thinking again. Yes. I WAS still going. I didn’t let fear control me so much that I canceled my flight or refused to participate in meetings. It’s OK to do things when you’re uncomfortable. Honestly, that’s when the magic usually happens.
And it has been.
I’ve been noticing the mystery of God (or the Universe, insert your own higher Being here – I believe it’s one in the same) in my life since I starting pushing fear to the backseat. Of how, once I started showing up and believing in myself and going for it than the Universe responded in kind. Opportunities began to present themselves – things I never would’ve dreamed of!
HOW THIS ALL RELATES TO YOU!
Well, I know what it’s like to let fear dictate how I spend my life on this planet.
I remember being in such a spot of stuckness with our finances that we didn’t have any choice but work as much as possible to make as much money as possible.
I remember being fearful of change because it might disrupt the status quo.
But, how is your status quo, really? If you loved the status quo I don’t believe you’d be here.
I truly believe that an amazing place to start going after your dreams and shoving fear to the backset is with your finances. Get those under control and you can accomplish just about anything. I mean, if money wasn’t a factor what would you be doing right now?!
Friend, fear is real. Fear was and IS very real to me. But, I’ll continue to keep “Doing it scared.” Because the alternative isn’t really an alternative anymore.
Talk soon friends,